ALEAH | Playa Mujeres, Mexico
How Aleah planned her 104 guest destination wedding at the Dreams Playa Mujeres Resort in Playa Mujeres, Mexico!
“It was perfect! perfect! perfect! perfect! perfect! perfect!”
*Photos courtesy of Mayan Riviera Photography
EPISODE 31
How Aleah Planned Her Destination Wedding in Playa Mujeres, Mexico!
This interview with DESTIBRIDE Aleah was EVERYTHING! Aleah and her husband brought 104 guests to witness their destination wedding at the Dreams Playa Mujeres Resort in Playa Mujeres, Mexico and she tells us alll about how they did it together! Aleah shared so much destination wedding planning advice with us - I know you’re gonna love it!
Destination Wedding Planning Topics Covered:
We chatted about:
💕How they met
💕Her proposal story
💕Why they decided to have a destination wedding
💕Picking their date
💕Planning and saving money TOGETHER
💕How they chose their destination wedding venue
💕How they picked their destination wedding vendors - makeup, photographer, etc.
💕Her Dreams Playa Mujeres Review
💕and so much more!
Soooo…how do you plan a destination wedding in Playa Mujeres, Mexico?
Click Play and find out how Aleah planned her destination wedding at the Dreams Playa Mujeres in Playa Mujeres, Mexico!
Enjoy!
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DestiCouple: Aleah + Terrance Jordan
Destination Wedding Date: November 10, 2019
City & Country: Playa Mujeres, Mexico
Venue: Dreams Playa Mujeres (Central Garden)
Wedding Budget: $30,000
(originally budgeted for $20,000 - see interview for explanation)
Number of Guests: 104
Bridal Party: 8 Bridesmaids + 8 Groomsmen
THE JORDANS
Engagement Length: 17 Months
Age: Bride, 32 / Groom, 35
Occupations: Bride: Consumer Marketing Consultant / Groom: Psychologist
Hometown: Elkhart, IN -- currently residing in Atlanta, GA
THE BRIDE
Bride’s Dress: Morilee
Bride’s Shoes: Jeffery Campbell Block Heels
Bride’s Jewelry: Etsy + Elegant Designs, Elkhart, IN
Hair & Makeup: Hair - Cousin and Makeup - Sara Tamargo and Team
#IMADESTI
DESTIBRIDE FUN FACTS:
Aleah’s nickname is Laya
Favorite Color: Pink
Favorite Cocktail: Champagne
Book Recommendation: The Four Agreements
Laya is also a lifestyle blogger and has a great wedding section with great destination wedding tips ! Find her blog @ TheLayaB.com and follow her on Instagram @thelayab_
THE WEDDING
Planning: Bride + Resort
Styling & decor: Bride (Shout out to Mother of Bride + Homegirl Chanel)
Photography: Mayan Riviera Photography
Florals: Resort (Bride Provided Pictures)
DJ: Ceremony - Resort / Reception - DJ Carver
Paper Invitations + Details: Etsy and Minted
Cake + Catering: Resort
Wedding Website: Riley & Grey
Etsy Vendors:
Welcome Bags: @WeddingUkraine Etsy
Fans at ceremony: @pbpaperie Etsy
Getting ready shirts: @WhatALuvely Etsy
Champagne place cards @RagandRoots Etsy
Hair comb: @GlamourBrideUSA Etsy
Cake topper: @Rawkrft Etsy
Other Miscellaneous Vendors:
Tumblers: Save a Cup + Sticker Mule
Drink Floaties: DH Gate
Advil/Pepto: Dollar Dayz
LINKS MENTIONED:
Omi’s favorite wedding posts on Aleah’s LayaB blog:
The Guest List: HOW TO BUILD YOUR WEDDING GUEST LIST WITH LESS STRESS
Shopping for your dress: HOW TO SHOP FOR YOUR WEDDING DRESS WITHOUT THE STRESS
Everything Else: See all Pink Links above!
Thank You Laya!
We appreciate you being our Bridefriend Forever and giving us a peek "behind your veil" of destination wedding planning in the beautiful Playa Mujeres, Mexico!
Thanks for Watching + Listening Bridefriends!
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DESTI Guide to Destination Wedding Budgeting!
Spreadsheet alert: Meet the biggest baddassiest destination wedding spreadsheet out there! All for you!
Hey Destis + Bridefriends!
It’s heeeerrrreeee!!!
The biggest baddest destination wedding planning spreadsheet is officially done! And it’s quite beautiful If I can say so myself!
SEE…
Okay so here goes…With all the craziness going on, I know that money is on your mind…you can’t help it.
So use this destination wedding budget spreadsheet to know exactly where you stand.
And…
DESTIHOUR: MONEY BAG!
And if you missed out on the DESTIHOUR: Money Bag Call, check it out in the DESTILOVERS Community Homepage - I went through budgeting in detail and shared my personal spreadsheet too!
Current DESTILOVERS Members: Find it here!
Future DESTILOVERS Members: Join here for access!
THIS PAGE WILL GROW!
I’ll continue to update this page with more Budgeting Advice, so bookmark it Bridefriend!
As usual, let me know if you have any problems or questions. Email me here or DM me on Instagram here
Happy budgeting!
xx, Omi
NOTICE:
You MUST Read the 1st Tab as soon as this document opens. It contains VERY IMPORTANT information!
SHARING IS CARING!
DESTIHOUR REPLAY: CORONAVIRUS CATCH-UP PT. 3 W/ TIME FOR TRAVEL!
Sarah’s back to catch us up on her trip to Mexico during COVID-19 for our Coronavirus Catchup Pt. 3…Bring your glass + watch the replay here!
🥂 DESTIHOUR 15: COVID-19 DESTINATION WEDDING Q+A (PT. 3) W/ SARAH KLINE @ TIME FOR TRAVEL
DESTIHOUR is our monthly LIVE Destination Wedding Planning
Q+A Session held every 1st Thursday at 6pm EST/3pmPST
in our DESTILOVERS Community - join here.
Replays live on FOREVER!
WTF IS GOING ON?!?
Welp - I'm bringing travel pro, Sarah Kline of Time for Travel BACK to update and advise us on the current Coronavirus COVID-19 destination wedding landscape!
Sarah was our travel agent and has helped hundreds more Bridefriends plan the destination wedding of their dreams all throughout the Caribbean and beyond! Her interview from Episode 6 is one of the most downloaded episodes - and for good reason!
Back in March when the ish hit the fan, she's returned to share all she knew about what the Coronavirus COVID-19 pandemic is doing to the destination wedding industry and how we can power through it! If you missed that, you can find it here: I’m calling that PART 1
She returned when we started seeing some movement with borders reopening for PART 2 and told us what we needed to know and more importantly, what we can and could be doing.
Since then, she’s taken an EPIC 11-day trip to Riviera Maya, Mexico - staying at 4 resorts and visiting 10+ venues and we’re gonna hear allll about it!
SO IT’S CATCHUP TIME AGAIN!
Join us for Part 3 of our Coronavirus Catch-up and stay in the know!
WATCH SARAH’S INTERVIEW!
LINKS DISCUSSED:
Part 1
COVID DESTINATION WEDDING LIVE Q+A: Postponing, Airlines, Contracts, Venues + All! ∙ DESTI 29
Part 2
Part 2 was recorded Live in the DESTILOVERS Community as DESTIHOUR 10.
Join to watch the replay!
Episode 6
Sarah’s 1st interview on the DESTI Guide to Destination Weddings
DESTILOVERS
Join the DESTILOVERS Community to connect w/ DESTIBRIDES just like you
and participate in our monthly LIVE Q+As - replays live on forever!
U.S. Department of State Travel Advisories
Currently: LEVEL 4 - DO NOT TRAVEL Global Health Advisory as of 03.30.2020
AND A SPECIAL THANKS TO OUR COMMUNITY MEMBER JAZMIN LACHÉ FOR FILLING IN AND SHARING HER EXPERIENCE WITH US TOO! THAT'S BRIDEFRIENDS LOVE 😍If you’d like to show her some love, follow her on Instagram @jazmin_lache
CORONAVIRUS DESTINATION WEDDING PLANNING
QUESTIONS + TOPICS COVERED:
💕 Destinations, Resorts, Venues, Airlines, Vendors...what are they doing and how should we handle them?
💕 What’s it really like to travel in the days of COVID-19 and what should you and your guests know?
💕 What are the most recent developments with resorts and venues at this time?
💕 Passports! What’s up with the agencies?
💕 When/how to (and not to) postpone?
💕 Advice for 2020 + 2021 + 2022 couples…
💕 Insurance, contracts, negotiating, travel advisories, borders closing…
💕 BONUS: What are the new venues Sarah found in Riviera Maya and what does she think of them?
💕 We're going over all of this AND MORE!
OTHER QUESTIONS ASKED: (time stamps coming)
❤︎ How can we get our guests excited about the trip despite the news/media?
❤︎ What are you hearing about these COVID-19 spikes?
❤︎ My resort Jewel Grande Montego bay has already done a few weddings and the wedding coordinator told me everything went great. What are you hearing about resorts in Jamaica? The process seems pretty good from what I’m hearing.
❤︎ Are you seeing smaller guest lists? If so, what are resorts doing about it?
❤︎ Are resorts telling you about any new regulations? Is dancing allowed?
❤︎ Any interesting incentives being offered by resorts?
❤︎ I’m on the choosing destination stage still...should I be deciding based on current rules or ignore them?
❤︎ Would you say destination weddings are more risky than @ home?
❤︎ Are other countries really scared of Americans?
❤︎ Is it too late to plan a Spring/Summer 2021 destination wedding considering how many 2020 couples have moved to 2021?
❤︎ What destinations are your faves right now?
*All information is as of the date of our interview - September 3, 2020. Be sure to check back for updates!
💕 Couldn't make it live? Submit your Q’s below and we’ll get you A’s!
You’re always welcome to join us live, but if you’re unable to make it - no sweat!
Drop a comment in the box or submit your questions and/or stories to the form below and I’ll answer in the next DESTIHOUR!
And if you know of any other couples planning a destination wedding during this time of COVID craziness, be a Bridefriend and share this post with them! They’ll thank you for sure!
See you soon!
xx, Omi
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SHOPDESTI IS BACK + I'VE GOT SOMETHING SPECIAL FOR YOU...
Guess who’s back, back again…SHOPDESTI’s back, back again!
Hey Destis + Bridefriends!
I’m declaring this weekend a DESTIWEEKEND! Whyyyy you ask?
ohhh I’m sooo glad you asked!
I announced it in last night’s DESTIHOUR and sent an email to the DESTI∙NATION list this morning, so you may already know this…but if not - I did a thing this morning…
SHOPDESTI IS BACK!
SHOPDESTI IS BACK!
SHOPDESTI IS BAAACK!
And to celebrate this blessed weekend, I’m giving DESTI∙NATION 25% off any purchases over $50 (yes, for real!) and the only catch? This deal only lasts until July 13, 2020 at midnight PST. So check your email! And if you’re not on the list yet - join here now so you don’t miss out.
Not engaged?
No sweat - SHOPDESTI has something for everyone! Don’t believe me? See for yourself!
Happy shopping!
xx, Omi
Coronavirus + Your Destination Wedding
2020 destination weddings have the most uninvited guest in the world…pour a drink…let’s have a chat!
“This [coronavirus] situation has brought out the best and worst in people…”
*This episode is sponsored by TIME FOR TRAVEL
What EVERY Destination Wedding Couple Needs to Know about the Coronavirus / COVID-19 Pandemic!
A LIVE Q+A W/ SARAH KLINE OF TIME FOR TRAVEL
HEY Destis + Bridefriends!
2020 destination weddings have the most uninvited guest in the world: CORONAVIRUS! And I’ve heard your questions loud + clear Bridefriends!
...Help is here!
This LIVE Q+A interview with #DESTIPRO Sarah Kline of Time for Travel is packed with all the MUST KNOW information if you’re planning a destination wedding in the time of this coronavirus pandemic.
Sarah was our travel agent for both destination wedding and honeymoon and has helped thousands more Bridefriends plan the destination wedding of their dreams all throughout the Caribbean and beyond! Her interview from Episode 6 is one of the most downloaded episodes - and for good reason!
I HAD to get her back on the show to update and advise us on the current Coronavirus / COVID-19 destination wedding and overall travel landscape - so she's returning to share ALL she knows about what the Coronavirus / COVID-19 pandemic is doing to the destination wedding industry and most importantly: how we can power through it!
DESTINATION WEDDING QUESTIONS + TOPICS:
💕 Destinations, Resorts, Venues, Airlines, Vendors...what are they doing and how should we handle them?
💕 When/how to (and not to) postpone?
💕 Advice for 2020 + 20201 couples…
💕 Insurance, ontracts, negotiating, travel advisories, borders closing…
💕 We're going over all of this AND MORE!
I KNOW you’re going to get sooooo much out of this!
*All information is as of the date of our interview - March 26, 2020.
Be sure to check back for updates!
WATCH SARAH’S INTERVIEW!
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Here’s a preview of the topics + Q’s we tackled:
What should we Any destination specific insights - what’s going on in Mexico, St. Lucia, Jamaica, DR etc...
What are resorts doing for destination weddings affected by coronavirus? (and what should we be thinking about?)
Specific advice by wedding month (April-December 2020)
How and when to postpone your wedding if you’re affected by the pandemic (immediately/wait for cancellation etc.)
Advice for 2021 destination wedding couples! How are you impacted? Keep planning, or nah? And how to think about things moving forward.
What are airlines doing for destination weddings affected by coronavirus? (pros and cons of credits vs. refunds)
Traveling, ticketing and wedding booking tips and tricks to know about and look out for in the future.
What if I don’t have a travel agent? We’ve heard about travel agents sending bills for canceled destination weddings...wtf?!?
Great money saving or negotiation tips while postponing and planning a destination wedding with coronavirus in play!
What the Level 4 travel advisories and stories of borders closing and people getting stuck around the world means for your destination wedding.
The BIGGIE: What would she do if she was planning a destination wedding in the middle of the coronavirus pandemic?
THANKS FOR EVERYTHING SARAH!
Can’t wait to get you back on the show for a THIRD time for MORE destination wedding planning and travel tips!
SPECIAL THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR: TIME FOR TRAVEL!
TIME FOR TRAVEL is a team of FREE Destination Wedding + Honeymoon Specialists
An AMAZING choice for any Caribbean, Mexico, South Pacific or Hawaii destination wedding or honeymoon, and with over 20 years of experience helping couples fulfill their dreams, Sarah and her team will make your DESTI wedding and honeymoon exactly what you've dreamed of!
Time for Travel handled all of our travel for our destination wedding in Mexico and Honeymoon in Jamaica wayyy back in 2017 and our guests STILL rave about her and have used them for personal vacations since then. I only partner with companies that I truly believe in and I’m proud to have Time for Travel as a sponsor of the DESTI Guide to Destination Weddings!
You can reach Sarah and Time for Travel at TimeforTravelLtd.com and follow her on Instagram @time4trvl_destination_weddings
And tell them Your best DESTI Bridefriend Omi sent you and they’ll take EXTRA SPECIAL care of you ;)
xx, Omi
LINKS DISCUSSED:
Episode 6
Sarah’s 1st interview on the DESTI Guide to Destination Weddings
DESTILOVERS
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U.S. Department of State Travel Advisories
Currently: LEVEL 4 - DO NOT TRAVEL Global Health Advisory as of 03.30.2020
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INTRODUCING: DESTILOVERS COMMUNITY!
FINALLY! A place where all my Desti Bridefriends can meet and discuss All Things Desti!
Hey Destis + Bridefriends!
The past few months have been ABSOLUTELY C R A Y for me and we’ll get into all of that soon enough, but right now it’s announcement time!!!
I sent an email to DESTI∙NATION email list over Valentine’s Day weekend, so you may already know this…but if not - it’s happening!!!
And btw…sign up so you don’t miss out again!
Anywho…I’m SOOO happy to finally have a place where all of my Desti Bridefriends can meet and discuss All Things Desti!
The brand spankin’ new, super secret, but not so secret DESTILOVERS Facebook Community is an extension of the show and is your safe space for sharing and collaboration while planning your destination wedding!
Not on Facebook?
No sweat - I totally get it! Sign up anyway and I’ll send you a special link to a page where you can still participate in our Live Q+A’s!
Here’s what you can also look forward to:
💕LIVE Q+A’s! (1st one beginning 02.20.2020 so don’t miss out!)
💕Episode Discussions!
💕Topic Deepdives!
💕 Weekly Desti Happy Hours!
💕 Special Guests!
💕 Giveaways!
💕And More!
This space will be whatever you Bridefriends make it! We’re a family here, so let me know what you need!
We have A LOT of catching up to do and I’ll be updating you on what’s been going on with me in this week’s live Q+A.
See you in there!
xx, Omi
Joyce Mnguni, Dream Weddings Riviera Maya
REALITY CHECKS w/ destination wedding planner, Joyce! I always say “everyone needs a destination wedding planner”, today I was challenged on that statement. Retraction maybe?
“Brides know when they need a planner...”
*Omi’s Wedding Photos courtesy of Shenko Photography
REALITY CHECKS
From My Destination Wedding Planner!
Q+A, Tips, Advice, Misconceptions,
Do’s, Don’ts & Warnings
Hey Destis + Bridefriends! I’m SO happy to share this interview with DESTIPRO Joyce Mnguni of Dream Weddings Riviera Maya with you!
I FINALLY got my very own Destination Wedding Planner on the show!
Joyce is truly magical and did an AMAZING job with our Desti wedding, but rather than just go on and on about my wedding, we decided to do a REAL DEAL Q+A to make sure that every Desti Bride is prepared to find and work with their planner and also understands the destination wedding planning process as a whole - no matter WHERE in the world you’re planning your wedding.
Joyce has worked with hundreds of couples and has a wealth of destination wedding planning advice to share with us! Prepare to get a glimpse behind the scenes from the perspective of a well-seasoned destination wedding planner!
I dug deep with my Q’s and Joyce was not shy in her A’s...Here are just a few things we discussed…
DESTINATION WEDDING QUESTIONS + TOPICS:
💕How to get what you want from your wedding planner (including crazy requests)!
💕Misconceptions about destination weddings - On-resort + Off-resort!
💕 The great civil vs. symbolic ceremony debate!
💕 Does EVERY couple need a destination wedding planner?
💕How to get married LEGALLY in Riviera Maya, Mexico!
💕Safety concerns in Mexico!
💕Must-knows about all-inclusive resort wedding packages!
💕 What can you do if you can’t afford a destination wedding planner?
💕 How to become a destination wedding planner!
💕so much more!
Soooo…what do ALL brides need to know about destination wedding planners?
Click Play and find out!
I Interviewed My Destination Wedding Planner...Here’s Her Side of The Story…
Enjoy!
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THANKS FOR EVERYTHING JOYCE!
Can’t wait to get you back on the show for MORE destination wedding planning tips!
Joyce’s photos courtesy of @cocostudiobymoni
Joyce Mnguni and her team at Dream Weddings Riviera Maya are absolutely AMAZING!
Joyce handled the planning of our own Desti Wedding Weekend and truly went above and beyond! We were so happy about our decision to choose DWRM! You can reach Joyce at DreamWeddingsRivieraMaya.com and follow her on Instagram @dreamweddingsrivieramaya
Tell her DESTI Omi sent you!
xx, Omi
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Desti Lisa's Prep | Santorini, Greece
Part destination wedding, part elopement, all love!
*Photos courtesy of Kapetanakis Studios
How Lisa Prepared For Her Destination Wedding in Santorini, Greece!
DESTI Lisa and her fiancé Ramon planned a romantic part destination wedding / part elopement (a virtual destination wedding, if you will) in Santorini, Greece and Lisa is here to tell us alll about it! If you’re considering (or have dreams of) an elopement - the way they did theirs was pure magic!
This interview was just DAYS BEFORE they were off to their destination and I asked all the questions to cover EXACTLY HOW this couple planned their wedding in Greece!
As a longtime podcast listener, Desti Lisa knew exactly what advice we needed to hear so she spared no detail in this interview! Here are just a few things we discussed:
Destination Wedding Planning Topics Covered:
💕How to get married LEGALLY in Santorini, Greece!
💕A GENIUS virtual destination wedding / elopement idea!
💕Finding and working with their destination wedding planner
💕Managing their Greece destination wedding costs and budgeting
💕How to make the most of your destination wedding photography
💕Their backstory + reason for having a destination wedding
💕Great ways to make your family and friends happy with your decision
💕Working together to plan their destination wedding - while living in different countries!
💕Lessons learned so far before the wedding
💕so much more!
Soooo…how do you LEGALLY plan a destination wedding in Santorini, Greece?
...And should you?
Click Play and find out!
Here’s how Lisa planned her destination wedding at the
Andromeda Villas in Santorini, Greece…
Enjoy!
WATCH LISA’S INTERVIEW!
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DestiCouple: Lisa + Ramon
Home: Indiana + Canada
Wedding Destination: Santorini, Greece
Wedding Venue: Andromeda Villas | TripAdvisor Reviews for Andromeda Villas
Wedding Date: July 18, 2018
Wedding Budget: $15,000
Engagement Length: 9 months
# of Guests: O!
*technically…The couple planned a destination wedding for 2 (with virtual guests!)
THE DESTIPROS
Wedding Planners: Divine Weddings Santorini
Wedding Photography: Kapetanakis Studios
FUN FACTS:
💕LISA’S FAVORITE PODCAST EPISODES are:
Episode 3 w/ Ivory Perkins when we discussed destination wedding makeup!
Episode 19 w/ HitchSwitch to learn about the name change process!
💕LISA + RAMON were BOTH in Medical School
and in 2 different countries while they planned their destination wedding!
Lisa was in Grenada and Ramon in Canada.
SO HOW DID EVERYTHING GO?!?
STAY TUNED BRIDEFRIEND!
Lisa and I are going to do a follow-up DESTIChat soon to get her update. We’ll be talking about what went right, lessons learned, and everything in between! So don’t forget to Subscribe + drop your questions in the comments below!
Thank You Lisa!
It was so fun getting a peek "behind your veil" of destination wedding planning and we CAN’T WAIT to hear how everything went for you and Ramon!
You’ll always be our Bridefriend Forever!
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Tales of a Motherless Destination Wedding
what happened? spoiler alert: I lived!
💕This is by far my MOST REQUESTED post, and with good reason. It’s an important topic and it also helps that I added it to my COMING SOON section and then left it sitting there like that last slice of pizza with the least bit of toppings on it...nobody wants to touch that...but you know you do. That was on March 15th, and you haven’t heard a peep from me since. Talk about fear! (more on that later) Adulting has taught me that if you’re avoid something and it’s holding you back, that’s all the more reason to do dat shit!
SO I’M BACK and this is ohsoimportant and close to my heart. so do dat shit I shall...here goes:
I knew it was coming, I just didn’t know when...and then...whoop there it was.
“Hi Omi...I noticed in your 200-day journal that you never mention your mom...
Is she alive?...If so, which one is she in your pictures?..."
Eeek! gasp! pearl clutch! 🙀 - all of the feelings
Why? Because, well as you can tell by the title...my mom wasn’t there.
I knew I wanted to talk about it with you all, make that needed to talk about it, but I didn’t want to be bitchy or ranty because that helps no one. I’m not interested in shitting on my mother and putting that energy out there because, well, I believe it always comes back and I’m not perfect in anyone’s eyes (including my own, more on that later too) and I’d hate a rant post to be done to me.
💕Side bar: Has anyone ever searched “my mom’s a bitch” on Google? Don’t lie Bridefriend... NO?!? Oh that’s just me? Well…I did it for research and there’s actually some entertaining and informational stuff out there in the interwebs if that’s your vibe.
That google search confirmed my feeling that ranting here would be a waste of energy and has been done. Annnd I’m actually in a great place about it since it’s been almost 4 years since I’ve spoken to my mom and coming up on 3 years since my destination wedding. And I can’t count, the hundreds, if not thousands of dollars in therapy that have been invested in myself over that time. Not a perfect place. Just a great enough place to speak clearly and intelligently on it.
And my biggest reason for wanting to share this is to highlight allll of the good shit that came out of my experience. That’s why I do what I do! As I always say,
“I’m learning these lessons the hard way planning my destination wedding,
so why not share the wealth?"
Hard way, check! Wealth sharing, currently in progress…
So let’s talk about my takeaways because I’m putting on my wise old Bridefriend veil and my Big DESTISister heels and she’s feelin’ super cute right now…
Okay here’s the quick and dirty:
My mom didn’t come to my destination wedding.
And I lived. I had the best weekend of my life.
She is alive, she was invited, shit got real, and she didn’t come to my wedding.
And it was the best decision FOR ME. Emphasis on FOR ME.
And did I say that I lived?
And speaking of truth…
This is probably also a great time to make it clear that I am NOT a doctor, therapist or psychologist or mental health professional by any stretch of reality or the imagination. This post is simply my opinions and experiences and although I speak quite definitively of topics related to mental health, this is an opinion and should not be confused for or taken as a diagnosis from a professional.
I’m simply highly opinionated. #therapyrocks!
So what happened?
I LEARNED A LOT! About myself and life. Life lessons galore!
Along my motherless destination wedding planning journey, I’ve come across and gone through some phases, principles epiphanies and concepts that have helped me along the way. I believe something in here will undoubtedly help you no matter where you are in your own journey.
Some of it is simpler basics, and others will require some deep soul searching in the mirror when your fiancé is away type of reflection. Certain parts could be common knowledge and others will blow your socks right. the fuck. off. You may take only 1 with you and throw the rest away...but then come back 2 years down the road when you’re ready for another. I’ll be here. You may hate me or love me in the end. I’m hoping for the love, because
ALL OF IT IS MEANT TO BE HELPFUL.
To end this disclaimer, know that this is meant to be support for you with your parent(s)...or really any strained relationships, but I’m keeping this mother centric because...well, titles...but feel free to sub out mom/mother for any other title and do you boo boo!
So let’s jump in!
My Mom Skipped My Destination Wedding - Here’s What I Learned…ABC Style!
Anxiety
Anxiety is a bitch and you can’t let her get the best of you.
Destination wedding planning stress is anxiety food. And unchecked anxiety will spin out of control, making you feel like life is out of control. Bitch almost stopped me from writing this post. It took me 8 months to get this to you. But we gotta check her.
How? Gotta name these feelings to treat them.
Enter Dr. Gloria Willcox’s "The Feelings Wheel". I use mine often and even gave it a special shout out on Day 121 - This is experience speaking.
This is "The Feelings Wheel" by Dr. Gloria Willcox, it helps to identify the root of feelings by tracing back to one of the main emotions in the center of the chart.
Boundaries
Setting boundaries is necessary. Really fucking hard, but necessary.
Planning a destination wedding naturally forces you to develop your own set of personal boundaries - with your planner, Bridefriends, guests, family, coworkers, strangers, partner - really anyone you come in contact with - especially yourself. And enforcing said boundaries with your mother is probably the hardest job in childbiz. Know that setting new boundaries is healthy and goes a long way in making sure that your wedding planning experience and life happens on your terms.
Codependency
It’s not your job to make other people happy and healthy.
I always thought it was my job to make sure that others were okay. They’re okay, I’m okay. The Lies!
There’s a word for this: I was codependent.
I learned that I am responsible for my own happiness - and that’s a full-time job in itself. I can’t control others and don’t want the responsibility of managing anyone’s emotions but my own.
This book was a life-changer - I recommend the audiobook...it’s good, pinky swear.
Depression
Depression runs in the family and when it hits, it hits hard.
I’ve struggled with depression for a large portion of life and planning a destination wedding provides a great distraction. It’s easier to mask pain when you have sooo many other things to give your attention to - until you don’t.
Do moms cause depression? Hmmm...no? Well, maybe. But not intentionally. Epigenetics suggest that family trauma including depression is inherited.
My depression may never go away, but it’s getting easier to identify and attack before the damage settles. If you think you may suffer from depression, don’t play - get help.
Eco-system
You have the power to control and protect your environment.
I’m super selective about what I let inside my life...at times characterized as being closed off or selfish, but best described as Preserving MY ECO-SYSTEM.
MY eco-system is made up of people who respect and value me and my relationship, welcoming honesty and encouraging growth. It’s a physically, financially and emotionally stable household, loving, supportive and positive actions. It’s my safe space. And it’s a sensitive space. I understand that the introduction of unhealthy behavior, relationships, and energies actually threaten its lifecycle - What we surround ourselves with can have dire consequences. Bullshit drama and unloving actions of any kind are not welcome here.
What’s in your eco-system?
Family
A family is a system and any disruption of a system comes with consequences.
What you’d love to be just between you and your mother will most likely stretch further into the family. But what you are willing to do for your own health and happiness may not be understood or appreciated by your family. Opinions will be shared and alliances forged.
via @desti.land
And something that I hadn’t placed much thought in was also the fact that if I decided to cut ties, that decision would apply additional pressure on siblings - causing them unintentional, but still very real discomfort and frustration.
Your reasons are your own, but they can affect others and I wouldn’t be a true Bridefriend if I didn’t warn you that you could end up the ostracized one in the end. It could really go either way.
Gratitude
There’s a huge difference between gratitude and guilt.
Don’t be ungrateful...ohhh, this one here.
It was hard to raise you, money was tight, you were a difficult child, she was a single mom, she walked 50 miles barefoot in the snow to go to school - all of it...WE GET IT!
But sacrificing yourself and your future because of the past are costs you shouldn’t budget for.
That’s not gratitude, that’s guilt - another G word, by the way.
via @desti.land
Guilt used to manipulate is harmful and is often packaged in a gratitude box because it looks and sounds prettier - but don’t be fooled.
Get grateful for the current. Your loving partner, the life you’re building and the privilege of being able to plan a destination wedding. Not everyone can do this, so appreciate that shit. That’s gratitude.
Her Side of the Story Doesn’t Matter
You gotta end the unhealthy cycle in dysfunctional relationships.
There are 2 sides to every story and I learned that neither are worth the drama.
See, there’s this bitch called the Drama Triangle (aka Karpman Triangle). She has 3 points (because, triangle) - Persecutor, Rescuer, and Victim. These are roles, not people which means that we (people in conflict) can play musical chairs in these roles and power struggle by sliding from one to the next - inflicting pain and taking it back until the cows come home.
It’s addictive, but so damaging - as addictive things usually are. Cut that shit out.
And yes - pettiness counts!
Insecurity
You are not worthless. And don’t forget it.
Insecurity plagues us all, especially women, and most definitely if your relationship with the one woman whose primary job is to nurture your physical and emotional growth is fractured.
via @desti.land
Insecurity latches on to as many life events as possible, always sure to whisper sweet horribilities in your ear…
I mean, if my own mother doesn’t see the value in me and is willing to not be in my life - how worthless am I? Turns out, not worthless at all. I just had to remind myself and seek out assistance from my bomb ass support system.
Self-confidence doesn't just happen. It takes work. Every. Single. Day.
Jealousy and other Toxic Mother/Daughter Behaviors
Mothers can be toxic too.
I’m sure this will rub someone the wrong way but I’m saying it anyway. Life happens to people. Moms are people. And as it turns out, mother/daughter relationships are susceptible to toxic behaviors and patterns.
Like mothers who are:
Dismissive,
Controlling,
Unavailable/Abandoners,
Enmeshed/Vicarious,
Combative,
Unreliable,
Self-involved/Narcissists, and
Role-reversed
Mothers are human and imperfect creatures - WE ALL ARE. Refusing to acknowledge this fact does us all a disservice. This is just reality and experience of many children in this world.
Know that NOTHING is permanent
Your destination wedding is just an event.
via @desti.land
It’s the most gloriously amazingly best thing to ever happen to you right now, but it’s still just an event. It’s not a marker for the end of the world and anyone - including your mother missing your destination wedding doesn’t mean that you’ll NEVER see/speak to/reconnect/reconcile in the future. Just as it doesn’t mean you’ll be lifelong BFFs with every guest.
Think of it as a snapshot in time.
And coming up on my 3rd wedding anniversary, I can tell you that many more snapshots are in store for you.
So be open - not to bullshit...fuck the bullshit, and fuck the Oreos too cuz #weddinggowngoals… but be open to life shifting and growth.
Because nothing, nothing, NOTHING is permanent - unless you want it to be.
Love Languages
What’s love to you may not translate as love to me.
In a random lightbulb moment (don’t we all have those?), I realized that if we all have LOVE LANGUAGES that express how we give and receive love, then it could be useful if applied to all relationships, including that of me + mom.
That lightbulb shined a tad too late for me, but maybe it could help you.
Take the 5 Love Languages Quiz with your spouse and send it to your Bridefriends and key family members too.
My Love Languages are Quality Time and Receiving Gifts. Emphasis on Quality Time - what are yours?
Mortality
We don’t sell ourselves short because people might die.
What if your mom dies and you regret not having her in your wedding?
Here’s your rebuttal: “What if I die and my mother regrets never being the mother that I needed her to be? What if I die a miserable child that never could choose my own health and happiness because of my mother? What if I die always wishing I could’ve had my dream destination wedding, but didn’t because of my mother’s selfish hang ups?”
Need I go on? Because I will.
BOTTOM LINE: We’re focusing on life right now. Agreed Bridefriend?
New New
You don’t HAVE TO do the work, you GET TO do the work
via @desti.land
Desti weddings provide a seemingly never-ending to-do list. It’s all on you and if we let ourselves, we can go down a rabbit hole of negativity. But don’t forget that we’re working for The Great Life!
On Day 23, I learned the importance of focusing on what is gained instead of lost - New Life, New Goals, New Priorities and changed my language.
It’s about the New New baby!
Opportunity
You can’t make people do the right thing. But you CAN give them the opportunity to do the right thing.
via @desti.land
I am NOT saying that everyone deserves a shot (or second shot), because I’m a respecter of boundaries (see above) and I also know there are levels to the toxic mother/daughter relationship (see above again), but don’t sleep on the power of opportunity.
You never know how things will work out.
If it goes well, great!
If it goes bad, at least you can say that you tried.
And sometimes you need that last straw situation to provide a painful comfort in knowing that you did your best.
Preparation
You must prepare yourself for what can go wrong.
You can bet your sweetDESTIAss that I was worried about how I’d feel on my wedding day. So I prepped my ass OFF.
It’s better to be proactive than reactive so, instead of avoiding, attack it:
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See a professional
Read books
Take notes
Roleplay with your hubby or a Bridefriend
And prepare for questions
I was ready for the questions...all but the catalyst for this post. I wasn’t ready for that one. But I’m working through it now and sharing it with you so - progress! (another P word. I’m on a roll here.)
Annnd you’re reading this post, so you’re already taking steps in the right direction. Right on my sistah!
Quality Relationships
Surrounding yourself with quality relationships is a game-changer.
When you do, something funny happens...
the more you’re accustomed to people treating you with respect and valuing you as a person, the harder it gets to accept anything less. Then you get the “oh you think you’re too good for us” or “you forgot where you came from” bullshit.
To that, I say, Yup!
I know I deserve to be treated with respect and refuse to be a part of YOUR drama and bad behavior because guess what: I know what quality relationships look and feel like.
Maybe if they knew better they’d do better too.
Reality Checks
Keeping it real with yourself is not optional.
When life is good, your glasses get rosy. All is well in the world, nothing can go wrong, people are perfect and your destination wedding is the center of the universe. Sorry Desti, time for a reality check!
SNAP OUT OF IT.
What is your life like? What is their life like? And who are people...reeeally?
People are gonna be who they are and the fact that you’re planning a destination wedding will not make a zebra change its stripes.
When you get real, you gain clarity. And with clarity comes confidence...and fewer surprises.
Sentimental
I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t miss my mom
because I did...and at times, I still do. Random memories pop her into my mind, milestones pass and Mother’s Day happens every fucking year. Hell, I chose a wedding gown that I KNOW my mom would’ve loved.
via @destiland
So its true.
I DO get sad that I don’t have the relationship I wish I had and think I deserve - I’m human and sensitive about my shit.
Does that make me throw everything else I value out the window? Nope, it just means that sometimes I get sentimental.
Therapy
Therapy is hard work, but oh so worth it.
Add a therapist to your destination wedding team...and then can keep it going. I’ve had mine for years and she was incredibly helpful in my destination wedding countdown days. I couldn’t imagine going through these times without her - it’d be...ugly.
via @desti.land
I know it’s easier to make up excuses to not go to therapy than to actually put in the work. But taking the time to heal ourselves of emotional and mental trauma is the best thing we can spend our energy on.
I read somewhere that people in therapy often go to therapy to deal with the people in their lives who won’t go to therapy.
I'll just leave that there.
Unconditional Love
Unconditional love doesn’t hurt - it feels great.
via @desti.land
Learning that it’s okay to express my feelings, have my wants and needs, enforce boundaries, make mistakes or just plain disagree with a loved one - and still be loved, respected and supported was an amazing gift.
A hard to receive and remember I own at times kind of gift, but I’m lucky to have that problem AND a spouse that’s willing to keep reminding me that it’s mine whenever I forget.
And I now understand how to appreciate someone despite (and sometimes because of) their flaws, mistakes, or bad ideas, and to judge individuals solely based on how they treat me, not based on how I benefit from them.
Mutual empathy and support just because of who I am?!? A girl can get used to this.
Venting
If you gotta blow off steam, do it responsibly.
via @desti.land
All Bridefriends are not created equal so watch out with this one and choose your ventee carefully.
Make sure they:
Are the right person for this issue,
Have your best interest at heart,
Will keep your conversation private,
Are in a good space to listen to you,
And understand what you need - do you need a fixer or listener?
And PUH-LEASE don’t text vent...we don’t drink and we drive and don’t vent text either. Trust me on this one.
Wedding
The wedding will be here before you know it!
The clock on the wedding planning countdown seems long, but it ticks quickly!
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Make enjoyment your mission because this wedding of yours is special and you’re not getting another one (unless your Jackie Christie) so enjoy this time and bask in all your DESTI wedded glory!
Journal like I did (privately works too),
Talk to everyone about it,
Celebrate your milestones along the way,
And try to make the hard parts fun too.
Your wedding will be filled with supportive faces - so the great time is there for you if you want it. Shift your focus on the wedded endgoal which is what?
Say it with me:
TO HAVE THE TIME OF YOUR LIFE, PLANNING THE BEST DAYS OF YOUR LIFE!
Xerox
Don’t forget where you came from.
via @Amazon!
Okay so this one was tricky - I needed an X word because I’ve made it so far! Stick with me here…it makes sense.
Remembering your past provides an opportunity to memorialize your growth and also, pain. And what’s great for memory preservation? Xerox copies! YAYYY!
As They say, Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it. George Santayana, poet + philosopher is They.
So keep a physical or mental Xerox memory of WHY you are where you are. And anytime you’re quizzed, judged or waver about your decision you can literally or figuratively go back to your file - more magic.
You Matter
Two Words: You Matter
My mantra!
I share this with everyone in the middle of difficult decisions especially my Desti Brides because balancing what other people want/need/think, with what do YOU want/need/think is no easy feat.
You gotta put your oxygen mask on first so if there comes a time to choose sides, choose yourself. And you know who else will be on your side? Your spouse. And if you need a reminder, hit me up too! I’m here for the You Matter Chatter all day.
ZERO TOLERANCE
We all need non-negotiables!
A wedding (or life) without non-negotiables is the Wild Wild West. There’s confusion and chaos and thennn when the crazy stuff starts to pop off and everyone is surprised at your flip out - you can only be mad at yourself.
We discussed boundaries, but there are levels and non-negotiable boundaries are where the gold is.
With boundaries, you have wood and chainlink fences, barbed wire, glass panels and brick walls...Or think about it big bad wolf style - you get my point. The non-negotiables are your brick walls...the lines that cannot be crossed. Don’t make me go on here, I’m running out of words. Just nod so I know you’re with me.
Okay, great.
Decide what you ABSOLUTELY will not allow, communicate it to all interested parties and then make it clear that you’re instituting a zero-tolerance policy. And enforce said policy.
I can’t do this one for you, well I can’t do any of this for you...wellll maybe a few things, but I don’t know how happy you’ll be cuz I’m about to call myself a bitch…so, yeah.
BONUS! Because 27 is better than 26.
The bond needs to match the title.
In the wise words of the DESTIBeauty Pro who happens to also be my awesomesauce Bridefriend, Ivory Perkins, “The bond needs to match the title.”
Look: All mother/daughter relationships are not created equal. Crazy idea, I know, but we’ve been over this. For many kids, the idea of being estranged from their mother is equivalent to capital punishment or death by acid drip.
But titles are earned.
And that goes for both mother and daughter. If a person isn’t honoring their own title, then why would I? Just because you have a title, it doesn’t mean you must be treated with a blind level or honor and respect, especially when you’re not honoring your own damn title. That’s a dictatorship.
And my life isn’t a dictatorship - or maybe it is, but I’m the Bitch. Okay, wait... this can get sticky, let me get back to my point:
A mutual bond and respect for titles is in order. Plain and simple.
NOW I KNOW MY ABC’S!
Learning to be there for myself is the best gift I could have earned and I never would have thought that this would happen to me. In all of this, I went through a hell of a lot of self-discovery and most importantly, I’ve learned to love and fight for the woman that I love - Omi.
Do I love my mother? Absolutely.
Do I think she loves me? If I’m being honest - it depends on which day you’re asking me. My mom could think she loves me, or maybe she just loves me in her own way, or it’s even possible that she hates me. I honestly don’t know and may never know.
But that’s the point of this entire post, it doesn’t matter how she feels about me. What does matter is how I feel about myself.
WHAT I DO KNOW is that I’m a Smart, Complex, Beautiful, Sensitive, Genuinely Loving and Phenomenal Woman. (RIP Maya Angelou) Every day I gain a clearer understanding of who I am and what I stand for and I look forward to finding out more and more about myself every day.
Although I didn’t have my mother with me at my destination wedding, I know that this is what I needed. It broke me down and pushed me to build myself up in ways that I never could have imagined. I came out a harder, better, faster stronger woman on the other side.
What I also know is that I have certain needs that I wouldn’t say she’s not capable of...I’d just say she’s not ready to take them on right now...And I’m okay with that.
It doesn’t mean that I’m not good enough, not worthy of love, or a bad person...it just means my mom didn’t come to my destination wedding.
I lived to talk about it, and so will you.
Destination wedding, check! Self-discovery + love project... still in progress.
xx,
Omi
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Q
Hi Omi,
I'm new to your podcast but I am already so grateful for the advice you've shared! My fiancé and I live in Chicago and our desti wedding is taking place May 19, 2021, in Cozumel, Mexico. Invitations have been sent.
My fiancé and I could not be more excited! Because our love for each other exists regardless of a wedding, our mentality is that this is a vacation for us to spend time with the most important people in our lives...and "oh, by the way, we're getting married. Please stop by."
We decided to have a destination wedding because it was the most bang for our (i.e., us and our guests') buck. We have been to many non-local weddings and by the time we've paid for our flight, hotel, food, drinks, Uber/rentals, entertainment, etc., we're out about $1k (or more)...in Detroit...or Cleveland...or Indianapolis, you get the picture. For our out of town guests coming to Chicago, it would not be cheap, to say the least. If our loved ones are paying that much money to come celebrate with us, then we want them to get more for their money--an amazing vacation experience and more quality time with the happy couple.
What we have learned is that many people don't realize how much they actually spend to attend a wedding because they aren't seeing the total at once. Because ours is a desti wedding, guests must plan in advance and the price tag seems "scary" to some. Though, it's an all-inclusive so the price is actually incredible for all they are receiving!
As a result, I have had some people (e.g., sadly my MOH) throw shade when I mention pre-wedding events, specifically the bridal shower. Unfortunately, funding the bridal shower is not financially possible for my mother who would be your typical host. My fiancé and I had already planned to fund it ourselves. I am not expecting gifts, though we did create a small registry per family's request; however, we have emphasized that their presence is gift enough and we do not expect gifts.
Is it excessive to want a bridal shower and even a bachelorette party if you are having a desti wedding? I think my MOH's sentiment is that people are already paying a lot to go to the wedding and it would seem greedy to have events where people assume they need to bring a gift and someone else needs to fund the event.
I am always the woman who knows what she wants and does it even if others hate, but I guess I am starting to feel as if I cannot have any pre-wedding events so as to not burden my loved ones further.
Any feedback you can offer is much appreciated!
Thank you,
DESTI IN DISTRESS
Is it selfish to plan a destination wedding
AND
want a bachelorette party or other pre-wedding events?
A
Dear DESTI IN DISTRESS:
First of all - CONGRATULATIONS on your engagement! This is a SUPER awesome + truly amazing time in life for you and I’m sooo excited + appreciative to be able to help in any way possible! And Cozumel is so on my list - I hear there’s a Reggae bar on the island and I gotta go! Reggae + Mexico?!? Uhh yeah!
Secondly - a gigantic THANK YOU for following the blog/podcast/show…all of the things! I get so excited when I hear that Desti brides like you find me and the show helpful!
Okay, so let’s try to soothe some of this concern of yours…
Can I first say that I LOVE that you asked me this question? Because I do.
I appreciate you reaching out and opening up and I feel you 1000%. I’m not sure how much you’ve read or heard so far so lemme tell you a lil about me - My motto is “you’re not the boss of me” and everyone knows that because it’s my funny way of saying I don’t care, I’m doing it anyway…because I want to… But that doesn’t mean that we’re heartless. The people you’ve invited mean a lot to you. Che (my hubby) and I are very much into being happy and setting boundaries, but that doesn’t mean we don’t love and value relationships. Often times, we end up pushing people out of their comfort zone and they’re happy for it. I sense that you and your fiancé have this similarity.
I felt the exact same way as you do and I talked about it a bit on my blog during the countdown…Check out Days 116 and 36 they’re super relevant. PEOPLE were acting UP, but the negativity really was overshadowed by alll of the positivity. We live in Pittsburgh, but Atlanta is home for me and I toiled back and forth about the decision to have a bachelorette party at all. I’m sooo happy that we ended up having a dual bachelor/bachelorette party in Atlanta and extended the invitation to whoever we wanted (not everyone) and the people who were able to (and wanted to) be there were there. We made sure that everyone knew that we were aware of the “extraness” but if they were in, they were welcome. The friends who came were happy to celebrate and create those memories and we're glad we did too. It was awesome and girrlll I had a hard time feeling worthy of it before we pulled the trigger…like...can I ask for this? Is it too much? It can be difficult celebrating yourself, especially if you’re in a better place than your loved ones. You gotta push through that. Some people struggle with their own self-worth so they may think…if I wouldn’t ask for something, how can you? But you can’t let that be pushed on you - that’s not your thing DESTI IN DISTRESS.
You’ve got some amazing once in a lifetime things going on in life right now and want to celebrate it - how can that be a bad thing?
Here’s what I’m thinking:
1. AMEN to calling out the expensive ass non-local weddings…you’ve got a great point - we’ve spent $1000+ on PLENTY of them! Sometimes even more than Desti weddings we’ve attended. Weddings cost guests money - plain + simple.
And you guys are sooo right about the "bang for your buck", BUT that only applies if you’ve experienced all of the things that you have, and understand what comes with an all-inclusive resort. Many guests don’t fall in this category and they just won’t get it until they experience it. Does this make sense?
For example…my dad kept saying over and over how selfish we were for having a Desti wedding + how we should’ve chosen a cheaper resort, etc. I finally had to tell him to shut up about it. “Your opinion is duly noted…no reason to keep sharing it - this is happening.” DESTI IN DISTRESS, he ended up having the best time, apologized to us sooo many times and as it turned out, he’d never stayed at an all-inclusive resort or a hotel as nice as ours, so he had nothing to compare it to. It was just plain ignorance (that sounds bad) make that lack of experience. They just can't get it. And some still may not get it. And that’s okay - don’t talk to them.
2. We had guests who had never been on a plane, no passports, never left their hometowns, have trouble budgeting for regular household + life stuff ...and we also had globe-trotting, financially secure guests…and everything in between. Both groups' abilities and interests were different - and that's to be expected. You know what the ending looks like so stay strong and trust yourself my sista. 👊🏾
BUT I must say...some people are just plain haters…not calling out anyone specifically, but you know if someone is being a hater. This wouldn’t be the first time they acted up and probably won’t be the last. Those are the haters…and Fuck the haters! (or F*ck if that was offensive) and don’t talk to them either 😂
3. I don't believe that it is excessive to want a bridal shower and/or bachelorette party
If this is something you want and don’t want to miss out on simply because of your wedding location, I’m with you. I was you. I’ve also interviewed and worked with many Desti Brides in your position. If you want people to come, you gotta try to make it easy for them. And easy doesn’t always mean the same for all. To make it easier for people, you can get creative with it. Think about what you want and are willing to do and make a list of all the people you’d want at your shower or bachelorette party. Ask them if they’d be down and see what they say. You could be surprised what happens. They should be honest so be prepared for it to go either way. But one person doesn’t get to (and shouldn’t try to) decide how you’ll celebrate. Majority rules in these cases.
That doesn’t mean you sell yourself short either.
Don’t do something, or invite someone, or go somewhere you’re not gonna enjoy. Find a happy medium and have fun with it!
Maybe you plan to have your bachelorette party in Cozumel or maybe in Playa after your meet + greet event if you’re having one. Or just any night where the majority of your friends are already there. That way no extra travel is necessary. Bring your tiara, sash or whatever you want! Try to avoid doing this the night before the wedding if possible - watch Desti Tressa’s interview and learn from her story 🙀
Maybe you have multiple mini-events. I have a girlfriend who had 3 showers…1 back home in Connecticut for fam, 1 in DC for anyone willing to travel w/ her, and then 1 in Pittsburgh where she lives for that group…it was more traveling for her but she had a ball multiple times and everyone was happy. In my case...In addition to the Atlanta trip, I had a mini Bach party with my sisters in law since they weren’t able to go to the wedding. It was cool and I enjoyed getting dressed up and partying multiple times too! I have different types of friends and everyone can’t afford to do the things I love to do. The fix: multiple mini-events.
Maybe you do something on a smaller scale that doesn’t require a lot…slumber party (I wanna do one so bad), wine tasting, go to a festival, take a gym class, something lightweight.
Maybe you subsidize a part or all of the celebrations. It sounds like what you’re thinking of and I like it. Like you book the hotel room, the restaurant space, the food + drink, the house if you’re going out of town, or something like that. Or you throw the party and people just come.
*Oh and if you’ve emphasized that you don’t expect gifts, you did your part. If anyone is questioning whether you’re genuine in this statement - they’re probably a hater. And you know how I feel about haters - see #2. And really - I don’t see anything wrong with gifts in the first place - had to say it. Anyway…where was I? Oh yeah...
Maybe you don’t want both a shower and bachelorette - choose one.
Have fun with it! Orrr…..
Maybe you’re big ballin’ and wanna take your friends on an all-expenses-paid trip. If that’s the case - don’t forget about me!
I’m serious.
But for real DESTI IN DISTRESS, here’s the thing: the fact that you’re even concerned about making your loved ones uncomfortable or feel burdened says a lot about you. I heard this quote from somewhere that said… "assholes don’t care if they’re being assholes.” DESTI IN DISTRESS: the fact that you’re asking this proves that you’re a thoughtful person. Assholes don't ask if they’re being assholes.
You’re not an asshole…
…at least not for being a Desti bride and wanting to celebrate with pre-wedding events.
Know that celebrating yourself is not a bad thing - it’s actually awesome! Not too many do it enough so YOU lovebirds need to DO YOU and keep being okay with it through this journey. and I’ll keep reminding you along the way.
I wrote a blog post while we were planning our wedding...I think it’ll resonate with you.
Wow that was a lot…hope that helps DESTI IN DISTRESS! Thank you so much for enjoying the show, reaching out and trusting me enough to share my 2 cents with you…even though I gave more like my 20 cents!
And if you have any more questions, let’s have a lil pow wow soon!
Seriously…I can tell you so much more that I can type you 😂
xx, Omi
Soooo…. what do you Destis + Bridefriends think? What say ye to the additional pre-wedding events if you’re already planning a destination wedding? Let’s continue the conversation in the comments below👇🏾see you in there! Love ya lots! xx, Omi
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Candice Coppola, Jubilee Events: Caribbean
Candice Coppola of Jubilee Events: Caribbean has been in the game for 10+years…her advice: “It’s like summer camp, for adults!”
*All photos provided courtesy of Candice Coppola & Jubilee Events
Meet Candice Coppola, DestiPro Extraordinaire on Episode 21 of the Bridefriends Podcast!
Candice is THE DEFINITION of a DestiPro - In the destination wedding business for over 10 years, She’s a wedding planner and designer, author, and founder of Jubilee Events and Jubilee Events: Caribbean, renowned event design and planning boutiques.
Clients have hired Candice and her team to design and plan adventures in Paris, Spain, Barbados, Mexico, Costa Rica and throughout the United States.
Her weddings are ridiculously luxurious and drool-worthy...so much that she’s been featured in...well...everything - but to name a few...Martha Stewart Weddings, BRIDES Magazine, Style Me Pretty, PEOPLE, ELLE and ELLE Decor, The New York Times, Glamour, and the list goes on...you name it, Jubilee Events has probably been in it.
AND NOW we can add DESTI® to her press sheet because Candice was more than happy to become a Bridefriend and share her amazing insights and REAL advice with us, to help us understand what works, and what doesn’t when planning a destination wedding!
We discussed:
· How to plan a destination wedding in Barbados
· Tips for multicultural and same-sex couples planning a destination wedding
· Must-haves when choosing your destination wedding planner and vendors
· Important factors to consider when deciding on a destination wedding location
· The best ways to plan a budget-conscious wedding in a luxurious location
· What Candice wishes every client knew about destination weddings BEFORE meeting with her
· The newest destination wedding book out on the market!
· And more!
So how do you plan a destination wedding in Barbados - and really ANYWHERE in the world?!?
Candice shares alll her best knowledge and expertise with us, so Press Play to see what to do!
Enjoy!
Links mentioned:
AppyCouple Wedding Website & App
Co-author BETH LINDSAY CHAPMAN
Key takeaway:
Destination Weddings are like summer camp - for adults!
Contact Candice Coppola:
Instagram @eventjubilee
Facebook /weddingsinbarbados
Twitter @candicecoppola
PURCHASE CANDICE'S NEW BOOK!
The White Dress: Destinations:
The Definitive Guide to Planning the New Destination Wedding
A FEW OF CANDICE'S FAVORITE PHOTOS TO ENJOY...
TO CANDICE:
Thanks so much for being a Bridefriend and sharing so much advice with us! We wish you much luck and LOVE your book, The White Dress: Destinations!
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JAMELLAH | Montego Bay, Jamaica
How Jamellah planned her 78 guest destination wedding at the Royalton Blue Waters in Montego Bay, Jamaica!
*Photos courtesy of Michael Chen Photography
How Jamellah Planned Her Destination Wedding in Montego Bay, Jamaica!
This interview with DESTI Jamellah was EVERYTHING! Jamellah and her husband brought 78 guests to witness their destination wedding at the Royalton Blue Waters Resort in Montego Bay, Jamaica and she tells us alll about how they did it together! Jamellah shared so much destination wedding planning advice with us!
Destination Wedding Planning Topics Covered:
💕Everything before she was on her way to get married including:
💕How they met
💕Her proposal story
💕Why they decided to have a destination wedding
💕Picking their date
💕Planning and saving money TOGETHER
💕How they chose their destination wedding venue
💕How they picked their destination wedding vendors - makeup, photographer, etc.
💕Her Royalton Blue Waters Resort review
💕and so much more!
Soooo…how do you plan a destination wedding in Montego Bay, Jamaica?
Click Play and find out how Jamellah planned her destination wedding at the Royalton Blue Waters Resort in Montego Bay, Jamaica!
Enjoy!
WATCH JAMELLA’S INTERVIEW!
PART 1
PART 2
DestiCouple: Jamellah + Patrick Owens
Age: Bride, 30 Groom, 33
Hometown: Prince Georges County, MD
Wedding Budget: $15,000
Destination Wedding Date: October 6, 2017
City & Country: Montego Bay, Jamaica
Venue: Royalton Blue Waters Resort, Montego Bay
[TripAdvisor Reviews for Royalton Blue Waters Resort Resort ]
Number of Guests: 78
Bridal Party: 7 Bridesmaids + 7 Groomsmen + 1 Jr. Bridesmaid + 2 Jr. Groomsmen
Photography: Michael Chen Photography
Bride’s Dress: Cherry Blossom Bridal, Washington DC
💕DESTI Note from Bride: Black and Women-owned bridal boutique where they specialize in plus size dresses for women! AMAZING team of stylist!!!
Bride’s Shoes: BLUE by Betsy Johnson
Bride’s Jewelry: Macys
Hair: Loc's Expressions (Mother of the Bride’s salon)
Makeup: Makeup by JodyB
Styling & decor: DIY!
Flowers: DIY!
DJ: 876 Sounds
Cake + Catering: Resort | Royalton Blue Waters Resort, Montego Bay
Groom’s Attire: Men’s Formal Wear Shop in Washington, DC
Groom's Accessories: Men’s Formal Wear Shop in Washington, DC + AMAZON
Bridesmaids’ Attire: SPOSABRIDAL
Groomsmen’s Attire: Men’s Formal Wear Shop in Washington, DC
Want more pics? Jamellah’s Wedding Hash Tag was #OwensLinkUp2017, check it out on Instagram!
Thank You Jamellah!
We appreciate you being our Bridefriend Forever and giving us a peek "behind your veil" of destination wedding planning in the lovely Montego Bay, Jamaica!
Thanks for Watching + Listening!
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5 Reasons To Watch DESTI TV!
As if you really needed a reason…Can you see me now? Grrrrreeat!
as if you needed a reason…
HIP HIP HORRAY for DESTI TV!!!
Sooo you’re here to find out just how wonderful DESTI TV is ‘eh? Let me give you allll the tea! Get your pretty little teacup ready…I’ll wait…
Okay let’s get ta sippin!
1. FUBU Created for DESTI BRIDE, By DESTI BRIDES!
I’m not a planner trying to get business from you… Juuust a DESTIBRIDE spreading love and making destination weddings easier for all involved. I created DESTI Guide to Destination Weddings out of my own need for community and information while planning my own destination wedding. It quickly received an overwhelming response from both brides and vendors in the industry and we’re back and even stronger than ever! There’s a flood of love, support from brides, couples, and professionals who only want to share their stories in hopes of saving another Desti blood, sweat + tears along their journey and I can proudly say that DESTI TV is created For Us, By Us!
2. Twice as Nice!
DESTI TV is a Twice-Weekly Show which means we’re bringing you new episodes EVERY. SINGLE. WEEK! Two times!
Here’s how it works: New interviews are released every Friday AND are filled with quick and usable tips, trick, advice and deals that we’ve found across the globe! Fridays bring you brand new interviews with DESTIBRIDES, DestiPros and anyone else who can help you plan your destination wedding by sharing their own experiences. (Friday and Saturday if an episode needs to be split up - what’s that…thrice weekly? Yup.)
3. Audio + Videos!
We meet you wherever you are. On the way to work…at work…at the gym working it out…cooking dinner with your boo? Listen to the podcast! And when you’re ready to sit and have a glass of champagne (or tea or coffee - no judgments…) or cooking dinner with your boo but okay with a lil’ distraction - Watch your heart away on DESTI TV! You’ve got options! Does everyone love options as much as I do? Hmmm…
4. You’re more than just a “Bride”!
Planning a destination wedding doesn’t magically make you no longer a woman or human for that matter. Life is still happening and there are still issues that you need to know about. We discuss, relationships, fitness, wellness, sex, mental health, music, current events, cocktails, food…all of it! And we need to hear from you too! You can always leave me a message, comment on a video, or reply to any email to share too!
5. DESTI-Nation!
You can’t plan a destination wedding alone - at least, I don’t recommend it. You need help, advice, and sometimes just somewhere to feel understood when no one else gets what you’re going through. You know it…We know it…I know it all too well. But you’re in luck because that’s exactly why DESTI® was created. We’re all Bridefriends over here in DESTI-Nation! Season 2 is filled with listeners of Season 1 who enjoyed the show, planned their own destination weddings, and are ready to share their experiences too! They’re making the show better by answering questions they wish I had asked and making the show stronger and stronger too - DESTI-Nation is lookin’ out!
BONUS #1: Fun…Open…Honest
What worked? What didn’t work? Each destination wedding experience is different, but we all let our hair down and keep it real with each other. REAL, HONEST + RAW is how we do it every week - with no judgments or apologies! Did ya’ll see Tressa pull back her wig? I just love her! Yeah - we’re Bridefriends for real!
BONUS #2:
Still not sold yet? Or do you just love a good Bonus like me? Hell it doesn’t even matter!
DESTI TV Audience members get a lifetime discount on all ShopDESTI items! Join DESTI-Nation and get the deets!
So Destis + Bridefriends… I hope you FINALLY understand just how magical DestiTV is! Drop a note in the comments below to let me know you’re watching! See you soon!
xx, Omi
15 Things to NEVER Forget While Planning Your DESTI Wedding!
Let's dig into 15 (out of a zillion) things I learned while planning my own destination wedding! DestiChat is always the best...We get personal, but that's what we're here for damn it!
EPISODE 13
Let's have BlackDesti Chat and dig into 15 (out of a zillion) things I learned while planning my own destination wedding! DestiChat is always the best...We get personal, but that's what we're here for damn it!
💕btw…this is Episode 13 of the DESTI Guide to Destination Weddings!
Be sure to listen to my fulllll breakdown! The quickie list is below.
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Here are 15 Things to NEVER Forget While Planning Your DESTI Wedding:
#1 Have 2 Dates on your Radar!
#2 Lie about your Wedding Date!
#3 Get a wedding planner!
#4 Don’t forget the details
#5 Forget the details on your wedding day!
#6 Have Plan B’s!
#7 Consider your period!
#8 Think about your guest’s experience!
#9 Ideas for guest welcome packages!
#10 Packing and traveling with fragile items!
#11 Don’t overpack!
#12 Bring Emergency Money!
#13 Think about YOUR experience!
#14 If anyone says you can’t/shouldn’t do something as a Desti - ignore them!
#15 Take Help! Ask for it AND accept it if offered!
BONUS
🙌🏾 Bring your hair/makeup artist if you can
Download your tips to keep them handy!
Our LIGHTING AND PAPEL PICADO as Referenced in Episode 13!
Our Custom Designed Destination Wedding Guest Welcome Boxes as Referenced in Episode 13!
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TRESSA | Cancun, Mexico
You’re not gonna regret it! No truer words have ever been spoken!
*Photos courtesy of Moments That Matter Photography
How Tressa Planned Her Destination Wedding in Cancun, Mexico!
Our 1st VIDEO interview is with this beautiful bride - Tressa - a Cancun, Mexico Desti! Tressa was married at the Moon Palace Resort in Cancun, Mexico and traveled w/ her family (including her 2yr old daughter) who lives in Detroit, Michigan and gives us her BEST destination wedding planning advice and tips!
Tressa is a Bridefriend O.G. and we go waaayyy back! Well, we’ve never actually met before this interview...but - she’s a longtime podcast listener and has been super-supporter from the beginning - I’m talking BlackDesti blog beginning! So I am super pumped to be able to share this interview with you all. You will learn something no matter what phase of destination wedding planning you’re in. I asked Tressa how to plan a destination wedding and she spilled all the ☕!
Destination Wedding Planning Topics Covered:
💕What Bridal Party vs. Bridefriends means to her
💕What made her choose to get married in Mexico?
💕Choosing a destination that they had never been to before - on purpose!
💕An interesting way to send Save the Dates and Invitations
💕Why she decided to plan a destination wedding vs. local wedding
💕Dealing w/ friends and family (a big family!) against the decision to plan a destination wedding
💕Dealing w/ last-minute guest RSVPs
💕Destination Wedding Specific Hair + Makeup tips
💕Shopping for her wedding gown as a plus-size bride
💕Deciding mid-wedding to change her wedding website to AppyCouple
💕How she chose her destination wedding venue
💕Money saving tips
💕How she narrowed down the perfect resort as her destination wedding venue
💕A mini review and her experience @ Moon Palace Resort in Cancun, Mexico
💕so much more!
Soooo…how do you plan a destination wedding in Cancun, Mexico?
Click Play and find out how Tressa planned her destination wedding at the Moon Palace Resort & Spa in Cancun, Mexico!
Enjoy!
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Watch Tressa’s interview on DESTITV!
WATCH PART 2
DestiCouple: Tressa + Jonathan Galloway
Tressa’s Wedding Details
Destination Wedding Date: September 2, 2017
City & Country: Cancun, Mexico
Venue: Moon Palace Resort & Spa - TripAdvisor Reviews for Moon Palace Resort
Number of Guests: 36
Number of Bridesmaids/Groomsmen: 6 each (12 total)
Total Budget: Budget originally 10,000 ended up around $12,000
Photography: Moments That Matter Photography
Bride’s Dress: Bombshell Bridal Boutique (St. Clair Shores, MI)
Bride’s Shoes: Badgley Mischka - Style: Carver | Similar Style
Bride’s Jewelry: Random costume jewelry store in Troy, MI
Makeup: LePinkie Club (MUA was a bridesmaid)
Styling & decor: Zuniga (resort's preferred vendor)
Flowers: DIY! Hobby Lobby
DJ: Encore Audio & Visual (resort's preferred vendor)
Paper Invitations + Details: WeddingPassports.com
Cake + Catering: Resort | Moon Palace Resort & Spa Cancun, Mexico
Groom’s Attire: Men's Wearhouse
Groom's Accessories: Macy's
Bridesmaids’ Attire: David's Bridal
“💕Don’t forget to check out Tressa’s podcast - TheRealiTea Show! These ladies are hilarious!”
Groomsmen’s Attire: Men's Wearhouse
Tressa’s podcast - TheRealiTea Show!
DESTI ❤️S ETSY!
Bridesmaids Robes – https://www.etsy.com/shop/GentleSateen
Bride’s Robe – https://www.etsy.com/shop/KatieJamesDesigns
Barefoot Sandal – https://www.etsy.com/shop/BeNelipots
💕#DestiNote from Tressa: “This snagged the hell out of the tulle under my dress and ended up breaking; I didn’t think this through when choosing the style of the barefoot sandal!” GREAT TIP! 💕Make sure you test before the wedding!
Caketopper – https://www.etsy.com/shop/HaymadeShop
Labels for Guest Tumblers – https://www.etsy.com/shop/DavetDesigns
Tumblers – https://www.dollartree.com/
Itineraries - https://www.etsy.com/shop/OneEarDesign
MORE PHOTOS!
Thanks Tressa!
We appreciate you being our Bridefriend Forever and giving us a peek "behind your veil" of destination wedding planning in the lovely Cancun, Mexico!
We wish you & Jonathan (& baby girl Jordan) the ABSOLUTE BEST!
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I Interviewed 8 Other Destination Brides - Here’s What I Learned…
I asked each bride how to plan a destination wedding and they delivert! - with a t!
I asked each bride how to plan a destination wedding and they delivert! - with a t!
To kick off the NEW SEASON, I needed to first - reflect on my favorite destination wedding planning lessons learned from each Desti Bride that I had the pleasure of interviewing in Season 1 of the DESTI (formerly Bridefriends’) Guide to Destination Weddings Podcast!
So I’ve had the pleasure of interviewing quite a few Destis and the interviews will continue through Season 2 and beyond, but the RELEASED episodes were those of 8 #DESTIBride trailblazers by the names of Rashonda, Shari-Ann, Lea, Chevita, Jackie, Porsha, Aiesha, and Ericka. I was able to chat with these ladies in pretty much every stage of my planning my destination wedding - early stages, in the middle, right before and even after so I’ve absorbed their advice from different perspectives...
Soooo…I thought it’d be fun and hopefully helpful in the process to share my favorite tip from each of them.
Here are my most favoritest destination wedding planning tips from each DestiBride…
Enjoy!
WATCH THE FULL VIDEO ON DESTITV!
THESE 8 DESTI Brides Taught Me Soo Much About Destination Wedding Planning!
How Do I Plan A Destination Wedding?
Rashonda
SPREADSHEETS+COMMUNICATION | Episode 1
Shari-Ann
RESEARCH, INTERVIEW, REVIEWS, REFERRALS | Episode 2
Lea
INFORMED GUESTS | Episode 5
Jackie
ASK FOR HELP | Episode 12
Porsha
DON’T BE AFRAID - BE EMPOWERED! | Episode 14
Aiesha
INFUSE YOURSELF INTO PROJECTS | Episode 18
Ericka
MAKE SELF-LOVING DECISIONS | Episode 20
The Formula
These Destis of Season 1 provided the ultimate formula for a successful and happy destination wedding planning experience…
ORGANIZATION AND COMMUNICATION + THOROUGH RESEARCH + INFORMED GUESTS + A DRESS [OR OUTFIT] THAT YOU LOVE + ASKING FOR HELP + BEING FEARLESS AND EMPOWERED + INFUSING YOURSELF INTO PROJECTS + MAKING SELF-LOVING DECISIONS …
That’s all you need to pull off a successful and stress-free destination wedding!
TO MY DESTIS OF SEASON 1:
I COULDN'T HAVE DONE IT WITHOUT YOU!!!
I appreciate you being my Initial Bridefriends and for helping not only me plan my own destination wedding, but you’ll forever be able to help countless others through your open and honest interviews as well.
I am so grateful for you!
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QUOTE OF THE WEEK:
“There is a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women. ”
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Professional Bridesmaid For Hire, Jen Glantz
Always a Bridesmaid...For Hire? A peek behind the veil of destination wedding planning from the mouth of the WORLD’S FIRST professional bridesmaid.
How can you be the VERY BEST Bridesmaid a Bride has even seen?
THE Professional Bridesmaid, Jen Glantz shares her best bridesmaid tips!
WATCH JEN’S FULL INTERVIEW ON DESTITV!
A bit of background: After being asked by 2 friends in one day to be a bridesmaid, Jen decided to put an ad out on Craigslist to offer her services to strangers who may need a professional bridesmaid. Since then she’s been on the TODAY Show, Good Morning America, CNN, Fox News + now HERE with us on the DESTI Guide to Destination Weddings Podcast! Share this w/ your Bridefriends - anyone involved in your wedding can learn a few things from Jen.
Deeming herself the Wedding Party Whisperer, Jen bridges the gap between Desti and DestiBestie by sharing a wealth of advice for brides, grooms, bridesmaids and anyone else involved in a destination wedding, or any wedding for that matter.
Jen shares her crazy experiences as a Bridesmaid for a ton of brides and shares invaluable bridesmaid tips like:
💕What is a Bridesmaid for Hire + who would need one?
💕How to pick your wedding party members
💕Why some bridesmaids forget to be friends
💕How to stop people from sabotaging your destination wedding
💕How to deal with difficult bridesmaids
💕Preparing for emergencies
💕Traveling tips
💕How to be a great Bridesmaid for a destination wedding
💕and more!
And of course, we get to talk about her hilarious new book, Always a Bridesmaid FOR HIRE!
Enjoy!
THANKS JEN!
Jen - Thank you so very much for sharing the wealth on destination wedding bridal parties!
You can find Jen's book, Always a Bridesmaid For Hire: Stories on Growing Up, Looking for Love, and Walking Down the Aisle for Complete Strangers at
& on Amazon.com
CONTACT JEN GLANTZ!
Always A Bridesmaid For Hire’s Website
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Omi's Destination Wedding Week Beauty Recap! - Part 2
Part 2 of the makeup and beauty rundown of as much as we could remember and re-live from my destination wedding weekend! Gems!
All of my wedding photos are provided courtesy of Shenko Photography
What went RIGHT and what went WRONG for my destination wedding weekend?
We go through it ALL in my #DestiBeauty chat w/ Ivory Perkins - who I hired to come along to Mexico with me to do my makeup and hair for my wedding weekend! In Episode 3, we chatted BEFORE my wedding, and then, of course, I got married and we ended up with plenty more to share, so this is our conversation that we had AFTER everything.
It’s a rundown of as much as we could remember and re-live and there are some gems in there for sure for you! This is Part 1 and here we share the wealth on everything including:
💕What you should look for and warning signs when interviewing your Desti Beauty Pro for hair + makeup for your destination wedding
💕What to do if you can’t bring a professional makeup artist or hairstylist with you to your wedding destination
💕Day-of tips for your destination wedding + how to channel your energy
· And more!
Enjoy!
IVORY:
Thank you so much for being our Bridefriend and DestiBeautyPro and for just being your awesomely magical self!
MEET IVORY
Instagram @ivoryperkinsbeauty
QUOTE OF THE WEEK:
“Ideas can come from anywhere and at any time. The problem with making mental notes is that the ink fades very rapidly.”
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Omi's Destination Wedding Week Beauty Recap! - Part 1
Strolling down destination wedding hair and makeup memory lane w/ Beauty Pro, Ivory Perkins. Back to Mexico we go!
Strolling down destination wedding hair and makeup memory lane w/ Beauty Pro, Ivory Perkins…Back to Mexico we go!
All of my wedding photos are provided courtesy of Shenko Photography
What went RIGHT and what went WRONG for my destination wedding weekend?
We go through it ALL in my #DestiBeauty chat w/ Ivory Perkins - who I hired to come along to Mexico with me to do my makeup and hair for my wedding weekend! We have plenty to share, so this is our conversation that we had AFTER everything. It’s a rundown of as much as we could remember and re-live and there are some gems in there for sure for you! This is Part 1 and here we share the wealth on everything including:
💕Roadblocks encountered before and during my destination wedding
💕What we did well, what could have been improved, what was expected etc. during my destination wedding weekend
💕Getting the most out of your wedding photos
💕Prepping your partner and Bridefriends
💕The Different Types of Makeup + Beauty Professionals and how to pick the right one for you
💕and more!
And just like episode 3, we are silly + chatty Bridefriends for real, so THAT’s why I decided to split it into 2 episodes. It’s a lot of information, so I hope you enjoy it!
WATCH PT. 1 ON DESTITV!
IVORY:
Thank you so much for being our Bridefriend and DestiBeautyPro and for just being your awesomely magical self!
MEET IVORY
Instagram @ivoryperkinsbeauty
behind the scenes photos…
Photos courtesy of all our great guests!
QUOTE OF THE WEEK:
“Just wing it...life, eyeliner, everything.”
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